Can
Men and Women be Friends?
Have you heard about being cross-sex friend? I seem to hear that you
are saying that it cannot be possible, but if I say to you it is possible, it
would be shocking, wouldn’t it? The writer in the article “Can Men and Women
be Friends?“ mentions about some researches and s/he benefits from experts
opinions. For example; one of the experts in the article says that “ women and
men can’t be friends comes from another area in which women were at home and men
were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for
romance”. In other words, men and women relationship are different from what it is
used to. Today’s world we live this life together no matter which life area
this is because we work together, we have sports interests together and
socialize together. Moreover; another expert in the article, Don O’Meara, has a
good cross-sex friendship and he decided doing research to figure out if there
is any other good cross-sex friendships. According to his research to understand
whether you are a friend with a member of the opposite sex or not, you have to
follow five steps. First of all, you should decide you are friends or lovers? I
mean you want this people, but in what way? He state that “you know you love
someone and enjoy them as a person, but not enough to date or merry them”.
There is a very thin line between them and you have to separate them. The
second step is that if you overcome attraction, you can become friend. You
should disregard sexual attraction. The third step is that you see your friend
equal with you. You should not think that your gender is chosen one, your
gender is just a gender not more than it. The fourth step is that you have to
deal with doubters. Almost wherever you go you will be welcomed with doubt by
other people. They will always ask are you just friends? Because they do not
have you point of view on this issue. Finally, it is important where do you
meet with you cross-sex friend. When you go a place what is your purpose. After
these five steps you can be sure whether you are friend or not. I think being
friend more important than dearness. You can find somebody to be in
relationship but a friend can be priceless for you and if it is cross-sex
friendship, it can be improve your thoughts.
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